NEVER, Ever Give up on Life & Hope !


We all have good days, days when we feel like we are flying in spaceships towards the cosmic joy, we have sad days, days that are just empty & days that seem like the worst has doomed upon us. For someone the “worst” might be a breakup with their lover, a quarrel with their family or beloved friend, failing an exam, not getting the job they dreamed of or a failure or setback which diminished all forms of hope and faith in goodness & the Almighty, a death or a loss that is impossible to recover.


Life is like a bell shaped cyclic curve. At a point in time, things get pretty stagnant and dull. Then comes the upside phase, the phase wherein you need to sweat every ounce of energy within you, struggle and work under the most impossible conditions. You might feel like giving up then, but my dear friend ! Remember, this is the upward slope and even while driving, the upward slope consumes most of your energy. Once you persist through all the tough times, comes the golden period. When you get rewarded sweet fruits of your hard work and when success kisses your feet. How much we wish life was a flat smooth plateau when we arrive at this juncture. Alas ! All the happiness is not much long-lived. After peaks come troughs. After warm sunshine, comes heavy rains and bitter winters. It is often that at this phase, we feel as if the world beneath our feet has been swept away. Like we’ve fallen down a cliff into an ocean. An ocean of loss, an ocean of disappointment and failure.

Once you have tasted success and experienced love and happiness in the truest form; loss, misery and defeat are extremely difficult to digest. Also, during the ‘struggle’ phase, if we do not achieve our desired goals after much efforts for a long period of time, the ship of our hope and faith sinks in.

So, what is the takeaway ? What to do in difficult times ? How to endure ? How to persist ? How not to lose hope ?

The worst thought that can cross one’s mind is “GIVING UP”. Giving up on the efforts, hopes and life itself – ‘Suicide’. When you feel that life is simply wasted and everything you’ve done is vain. When we wish to numb the pain forever. A lot of times in my own life, I have felt like giving up. Wanted to simply not exist. Wished for all the pain and sufferings to be washed away like the dust being cleansed with the first shower of rains.

So what is my secret ? Why am I still alive, healthy & happy ? How did I cope up ? Why did I not give up ?

The key is to express and let your heart feel what it wants to feel. Imagine water being kept for days in the same glass. What happens ? It becomes stale and over a period of time algae starts breeding in the stagnant water. So is it with life. Let the flow of emotions run in your heart and mind and you will never encounter any clots. Try to suppress your feelings to numb the pain for a while; and it cumulates to such an extent that one fine day, the balloon will blast !


Express what you feel. Communicate your problems, griefs, issues, setbacks, disappointments, loss, to a loved one. Someone who can listen to you empathetically and lend you their shoulder in your tough times. A friend who would wipe away your tears before they flow from your eyes. But, if at some grave milestone, you feel all alone; and think there is no one you can share your life’s emptiness with, do something to unveil the negative energies and emotions. Write to your diary, write letters to God, sing, dance, hit the gym with some workout, play sports or indulge in some art. Do something to channelise your pain and busy your mind with some activity.

What if none of the above works for me ? What if I have decided to give up ?

For a moment, just think about the people who love you and the ones you love. 


“The person who completes suicide, dies once. Those left behind die a thousand deaths, trying to relive those terrible moments and understand … Why?”

“Because if you kill yourself, you’re also going to kill the people who love you.”

Death is not the end of pain and suffering. It only ends the hope of things getting better. Remember, when the night is the darkest; sunshine is only hours away.


Today on September 10th, on ‘World Suicide Prevention Day’, to every person reading this, I want to give you a big warm hug and tell you: 


I am thankful to the people who have been my pillars of strength and support during my tough times, who have lent me hope and courage and who believed in me, when I couldn’t. Thank you for your love so unconditional. ❤

PS: This is my 100th post on WP and something really close to my heart.

104 thoughts on “NEVER, Ever Give up on Life & Hope !

    • For anyone who knows me, I just want to tell, I am always there for you. I have been where you are. I have felt what you feel. And I have overcome it. If I can, give me your hand and help you walk from isolation and hopelessness to a world of love and hope 🙂

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  1. Himali, what a beautiful encouragement. I could really relate to the whole roller coaster emotions thing. I remember when I was younger, I had very high highs and very low lows. So much so that my mom even suggested that I may be bipolar. I’m not bipolar, but I can see why she would have thought that.
    At any rate, I didn’t know today was World Suicide Prevention Day. Thanks for taking action and writing this.
    Tons of love and big bear hugs 🙂 ❤

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  2. Great post and reminders Himali. I love your compassion and agree with your wisdom to allow all our feelings. Plus share with a good friend, family or professional. I’ve struggled with depression at times and am finally learning to allow the flow of feelings, plus reaching out to people that care and can help. If we stay connected to something bigger in life, it’s less likely we would want to end our lives. Maybe your readers would like my 7 Tips for Living a Connected Life.

    Thanks for a timely post! blessings my friend.

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  3. Well.. Himali.. as Love works Love feels and does not feel and
    most importantly Love appreciates and has gratitude
    when Love feels again.. most everyone like
    you gains the greaTest Love
    through the greaTest darkness
    and truly life is one long
    test for survival..
    and the way to
    bring comfort
    is to move..
    connect and
    create beyond
    culture rules
    that take
    away from
    THAT my

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  4. “We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”
    This was an outstanding post with beautiful message Himali , so vibrant with positivity. As you said expressing your emotions is very important And I’ve always struggled with it but this blog provided me with my ultimate form of expression in my darkest of times for which I’m very thankful. So glad that I have people like you around in this blogosphere !

    Hope you are well my dear.
    Lots of love,
    Zee ❤


    • Hello Luckyjc, thank you so much for your encouraging words ! 🙂 I wish this post reaches out to everyone who is having a tough time in life. I wrote it with the intent that if ever, I have a bad phase in life, what is it, that can lift my spirits 🙂


  5. wonderful thought Himali 😊 it is Motivation for all those people who think of it. Always spread smile 😄 and love one another. Many more beautiful thoughts yet to come.
    by the way congrats for your 100th wp post and would love to read your many more posts.. Keep spreading love and your thoughts.
    Much love and hugs to you 😄❤️

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  6. Wow Himali.. I really felt each and every line.. Very inspiring.. We have to do and understand life each and every moment. Giving up is never the right option. We should feel the pain as if it is happiness, and then pain itself will turn into happiness. The quote which tells that if you really love someone, don’t say you will die for them, you should live for them. It’s very inspiring quote.. 🙂

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    • I loved that one the most.. The ones we love would be so much at loss if we decide to give up.

      “No. Don’t give up hope just yet. It’s the last thing to go. When you have lost hope, you have lost everything. And when you think all is lost, when all is dire and bleak, there is always hope.”

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      • Yes… That is always inspiring.. Because there are always eyes of some people on us.. For them we have to be faithful.. Because only with faith the fog of doubt will disappear.. Have a good time my friend.. On WordPress after a month.. 😉


  7. personally, i feel that those who do give up and do something about it are the strong ones. it is hope which is the illusion that keeps many people driving forward when there is nothing ahead for them but pain and lonliness. just thinking of the suffering and death humans so willingly force upon countless billions of non-human animals every year in the name of pleasure and profit makes personal happiness seem selfish in many ways. on a daily basis, i am reminded of this quote:
    “I am ashamed of the race of beings to which I belong. It is so cruel and bigoted, so hypocritical, so soulless and insane. I would rather be an insect … a bee or a butterfly … and float in dim dreams among the wild-flowers of summer than be a man and feel the horrible and ghastly wrongs and sufferings of this wretched world.” -Professor J. Howard Moore


  8. Reblogged this on SUCCESS INSPIRER and commented:
    This is a post I thought I should share with those who might be at the point of giving up hope. It is such a great piece which Himali has done for all of us. Himali is such an inspiring young lady. I always tell her that what she touches turns into gold; and that is true at her young age. This post will revive your faith and hope and you could find yourself taking new strides that will lift you to where you have always dreamed to be. Read it.


  9. Himali, first of all thanks for adding one more important day i.e Suicide day, 10th Sept in my vocabulary. Yes it is not that easy to think positive when you are in the midst of rough weather but people who survive certainly enjoy the fruits of good weather . You are spot on for showing the way to lead the life in adversity and the experience seems to be of hundreds of years. I suppose you are not even 30. How come?


    • Hello my dear friend ! Welcome to Decoding Happyness 🙂

      Thank you so much for stopping by and your lovely words of encouragement. I also believe that it is very tough to persist in difficult times, but what breaks us, also makes us ! It is so essential to be positive and never give up on hope and life. Life is indeed a blessing 🙂

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