13 days back, I started a new something on my blog and named it as THP – The Happyness Project. In each post under this category, I post the below preface :
A few days back, during lunch time; I was listening to a wonderful TEDx talk about how we as humans have the natural tendency to look at the negatives and getting stuck in them. It was quite true and the speaker Miss Alison offered a simple technique on training to focus our mind on the positives in life – a gratitude journal or thinking of what made us happy that day !
Life is indeed cyclical and so are our days. During a day, we experience several highs and lows. I have tried to start a project for myself, where in I list down at least 5 things/ people/ incidents which made my day a “Happy” day and I’ve decided to call it “The Happyness Project (THP)”. Starting August 2nd, each day I will post a short synopsis of what made me happy that day and let the people behind that moment know that I treasure that moment. So, essentially; it is happyness, gratitude & thankfulness all practiced together. These posts will not be pinned to my blog home page but will be published under the menu “The Happyness Project”.
I have always been a person who doesn’t believe in giving explanations because this is what i believe :
Don’t explain yourself to people,
Those who understand you don’t need them,
And those who don’t – do not deserve them !
There have been some people who have criticized THP saying that I am trying to portray a false image of a happy and perfect life. They regularly check my blog and read all my posts – in a kind of manner – to find out what is going on in my life and if I have any mention of them in my posts and to counter me with negative criticisms if they think I have mentioned them.
Well, the whole point of this project was to share my life and the small things which we often tend to oversee. This criticism coming from dear friends, is disturbing and unwarranted. I didn’t have the motivation to write for 2 days and yesterday I wrote a cumulative marathon and yet received a 2nd serving of cynicism. I am a human, and it hurts me even though I may not show.
Before I share my real reasons for starting this project, I want to tell them a few things :
Please STOP following my blog and my posts.
- Going forward, I will still be writing THP.
; BUT ALL (including previous posts) posts privacy settings will be set to Private / Password protected. This is a goodbye to you. Please note the usage of Full stops after every sentence.Opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference. I am INDIFFERENT to the negativity.
And lastly, to sum up the post, I will share the honest reasons for starting this project for myself :
- To train my mind to focus on the positive aspects of my day
- As I started writing THP posts every night, my day seemed worth it and I had happy thoughts to think of before going to bed and while asleep
- I could let the people know behind those happy moments how much I treasured their act of love and care and it made my day to make them happy
- I could sleep better without interruptions
- Didn’t get many bad dreams
- During the entire day, my mind was consciously looking for the positives
- To overcome grief and hurt, I experienced of late
- Share a part of my life with my readers
- Highlight that happiness is so simple and often so easy to find if you look for it even during your darkest days
- Bring to notice that happiness and love lies in simple gesture
- To remind myself that I am flawed, but I am loved. And that is enough. I don’t have to be perfect. The love I receive, inspires me to become a better version of myself on my own accord without any external pressure or stimulants.
- Sharing is caring
By no means I have wanted to project that my life is awesome or perfect. I and my life are imperfect and flawed. I have loved and lost and I have hurt and been hurt too. I do NOT wish to paint a fake or a rosy picture of my life. I am not portraying a perfect happy life by any means. I have always tried to be genuine about my days in each post. If there was something which made me cry – I wrote about it.
LIFE is unfair, but totally worth it. As someone has rightly said :
Zindagi worth hai, Vyarth Nahi (Life is not a waste, it is totally worth it)
Thank you for the harsh feedback. I have learnt my lessons very well. I take this as a learning step on how to handle criticism gracefully and keep strong in what I believe without the fear of being judged. Thank you 🙂