The Happyness Project : Criticism – Edit

13 days back, I started a new something on my blog and named it as THP – The Happyness Project. In each post under this category, I post the below preface :

Preface :

A few days back, during lunch time; I was listening to a wonderful TEDx talk about how we as humans have the natural tendency to look at the negatives and getting stuck in them. It was quite true and the speaker Miss Alison offered a simple technique on training to focus our mind on the positives in life – a gratitude journal or thinking of what made us happy that day !

Life is indeed cyclical and so are our days. During a day, we experience several highs and lows. I have tried to start a project for myself, where in I list down at least 5 things/ people/ incidents which made my day a “Happy” day and I’ve decided to call it “The Happyness Project (THP)”. Starting August 2nd, each day I will post a short synopsis of what made me happy that day and let the people behind that moment know that I treasure that moment. So, essentially; it is happyness, gratitude & thankfulness all practiced together. These posts will not be pinned to my blog home page but will be published under the menu “The Happyness Project”.

I have always been a person who doesn’t believe in giving explanations because this is what i believe :

Don’t explain yourself to people,
Those who understand you don’t need them,
And those who don’t – do not deserve them !

There have been some people who have criticized THP saying that I am trying to portray a false image of a happy and perfect life. They regularly check my blog and read all my posts – in a kind of manner – to find out what is going on in my life and if I have any mention of them in my posts and to counter me with negative criticisms if they think I have mentioned them.

Well, the whole point of this project was to share my life and the small things which we often tend to oversee. This criticism coming from dear friends, is disturbing and unwarranted. I didn’t have the motivation to write for 2 days and yesterday I wrote a cumulative marathon and yet received a 2nd serving of cynicism. I am a human, and it hurts me even though I may not show.

Before I share my real reasons for starting this project, I want to tell them a few things :

  • Please STOP following my blog and my posts.
  • Going forward, I will still be writing THP.    ; BUT ALL (including previous posts) posts privacy settings will be set to Private / Password protected. 
  • This is a goodbye to you. Please note the usage of Full stops after every sentence.  Opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference. I am INDIFFERENT to the negativity.

And lastly, to sum up the post, I will share the honest reasons for starting this project for myself :

  • To train my mind to focus on the positive aspects of my day
  • As I started writing THP posts every night, my day seemed worth it and I had happy thoughts to think of before going to bed and while asleep
  • I could let the people know behind those happy moments how much I treasured their act of love and care and it made my day to make them happy
  • I could sleep better without interruptions
  • Didn’t get many bad dreams
  • During the entire day, my mind was consciously looking for the positives
  • To overcome grief and hurt, I experienced of late
  • Share a part of my life with my readers
  • Highlight that happiness is so simple and often so easy to find if you look for it even during your darkest days
  • Bring to notice that happiness and love lies in simple gesture
  • To remind myself that I am flawed, but I am loved. And that is enough. I don’t have to be perfect. The love I receive, inspires me to become a better version of myself on my own accord without any external pressure or stimulants.
  • Sharing is caring

By no means I have wanted to project that my life is awesome or perfect. I and my life are imperfect and flawed. I have loved and lost and I have hurt and been hurt too. I do NOT wish to paint a fake or a rosy picture of my life. I am not portraying a perfect happy life by any means. I have always tried to be genuine about my days in each post. If there was something which made me cry – I wrote about it.

LIFE is unfair, but totally worth it. As someone has rightly said :

Zindagi worth hai, Vyarth Nahi (Life is not a waste, it is totally worth it)

Thank you for the harsh feedback. I have learnt my lessons very well. I take this as a learning step on how to handle criticism gracefully and keep strong in what I believe without the fear of being judged. Thank you 🙂



27 thoughts on “The Happyness Project : Criticism – Edit

  1. Himali, I am sorry you got criticized for your wonderful and light filled series. You are so right! Don’t care about the few who cannot or don’t want to feel the blessing of gratitude. There are so many more who appreciate it and get inspired and encouraged. You are doing great and it is your blog. You cannot make everybody happy anyway. Better being criticized for spreading light than darkness, right?💖

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  2. Hi Himali – Keep doing what you are doing! If it makes you happy to share projects like THP, then share away. Those of us who find it interesting (and perhaps thought provoking) will be following and supporting you. There is nothing wrong with trying to improve! In fact I would suggest improving oneself and maturing are much the same!
    There will always be the negative opinions, but those will be based on possibly ignorance, or envy of your situation, or quite simply a result of a total lack of imagination on their part. I was told two very important things a long time ago:
    1. You cannot control people’s minds. What they think is out of your control, so don’t waste time wondering what anybody will think!
    2. Surround yourself with those projecting a positive mental attitude. Misery/negativity can be contagious so push them away as best you can,
    Have a wonderful “rest of your day”…. and keep blogging happiness! Take care. 🙂

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  3. SMiLeS.. mY FriEnd Himali..
    must admit curiosity got the
    best of me.. looked
    for who did this
    to you..
    couldn’t find
    them but never the
    less and more glad
    to see you indifferent
    to the negativity.. that’s
    hard to do.. really reAlly
    hard to do.. Love YouR enemies
    as ‘they’ say is so hard to do.. quite
    the Challenge but possible i feel with practice
    practice practice and more practice when LiGHT
    all the
    that suReLY
    BeCoMeS LiGht
    thaT SpArKs FroM
    DarK when DArk
    mUse beCoMeS
    thE LiGht you/we
    iNto NoW..
    It’s trUe mY FriEnd
    for one day our FAther
    our Mother our Sisters Brothers
    Lovers and Friends for now will be gone
    when the last blink of sleep CoMes ’till God
    deCidES wHaT HapPens NexT beYonD ouR
    tiny comprehensions of LiFe and truly thE LoVE
    we give to those who walk in daRKesT LiGht
    is thE LoVE THaT PoTenTiaLLy LiVeS
    oN wHeRe no liGht may
    have reached
    a little creativity
    to get the attention
    of dARk.. tRaP the dARK
    And BRinG LiGht to tEars forlorn in the
    otHeR Place With LoVELiGhT iN TrUth wArM hUmaN LiFE..:)


  4. There are actually people who read your posts just so they can find reasons to criticize you? And of all things, they criticize you for writing about the happy moments of your days? Gundappa, those are not the actions of “dear friends”: they are actions designed to bring you down and control you. That is not how friends treat each other.

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  5. I can’t say more than people have already said, like everybody said there are more of us who love what you write and what you post than those cynics. Please don’t let this project go. We love you ♥️


  6. Well, I only met you through the blogosphere, and I didn’t take your posts as wanting to glamorize your life, just as someone looking for the positive things in (her) life. I used to be that way, then things took a different turn, and now I’m really trying to get back to that. I’m nowhere near as close as you are, but seeing your posts reminds me of where I want to be.

    Not to defend the person who sent you such criticism – and I agree with another person here, not your friend at all – they might be so far into their own negativity, that it’s the only way of life for them. Either that, or they really don’t want to see you succeed. I have relatives like that, and I avoid them. But keep doing what you’re doing, and pm us your password, please.

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    • Thank you so much for your encouragement and kind words of wisdom. I do agree that at times we tend to be drawn to the dark. I have also been struggling to see the positive and I hope to continue on my path towards being a better person.

      I think at some point in lives, like a little sheep we wander away from our Shepherd – The Lord. And jolts in life are only a way to bring us closer again to God. May we learn to love and to forgive.

      And for the critics – I have apologised for snapping back and forgiven them too. The posts are no longer private 🙂


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