Some moments amidst a blue day are Eureka moments. They trigger such enthusiasm from you, that you leave aside all the lousiness and open your laptop to write about your eureka thought. This post is an outcome of one such eureka moment.
I have always been a believer in the power of expression and love. By love, I don’t just mean romantic love. My definition of love encompasses every kind of love that exists – love for your spouse, love for your child, love for your parents, sibling & family members, love for a friend, roommate, love for your pet, for your coworker, for your teacher, for your students, and even your blogily friends – people you never have met in your life.
My definition of love for this post is a feeling of affection, admiration, protecting, nurturing, care, warmth, attachment, respect, commitment and/ or liking for any living being. These feelings can be both mutually exclusive as well as mutually exhaustive. For example – you may have all the above feelings for your spouse, where as for your friend you may have feelings of admiration and respect.
Today morning, I woke up to an email from a friend who had newly discovered my blog – appreciating my writing and trust me, it was such an awesome way to begin my day. During the day, while I interact with my parents – they keep checking up with me my menu for breakfast and lunch. My brother knows how rushed my morning routine is and helps me with packing up my lunch, at times he goes out of his way to make sure I am well taken care of. My friends care to read my posts I share with them and send me a word of encouragement. They also listen to me and offer words of wisdom with so much patience. My co-worker shares their chocolate with me at work and calls to wish me a happy journey in advance. What is all of this ? It is an expression of love they have for me !
You can express your love for a person in your physical proximity with a small action or even a big bright smile. To the people, not in your vicinity, you show them your love by speaking with them when they have something to share with you, keeping in touch with them or even something as simple as checking up with them on what’s going on in their lives.
I personally think, expression of love – by words and actions is so vital rather than just carrying that emotion in your heart. If you love someone, let it show. Say hello to them just because, at the end of a long busy day; offer your help to them with a chore. Bring in something they like, take them out, hug them, hold their hand while crossing the road (my favorite – makes me feel so protected and secure), remember their little details, randomly send a ‘I miss you‘ or ‘thinking of you‘ text to them. Send them a surprise present, listen to what they have to say, offer your warmth to them when they are hurting, ask them what are their plans for the weekend or check with them what they just had for lunch. Tuck them under the blanket when fast asleep. Squeeze their hand when they are nervous to give your reassurance. Call them with cute nicknames. There are SO MANY ways of showing your love for them.
Your expression of love will surely touch their heart and make their day so much happy and bright. They will have a reason to smile. Even appreciating when someone does something kind to you, makes the person feel loved and valued – I am doing so by sharing with the people who made me happy that day through The Happyness Project. It has been such a rewarding experience, trust me !
And sometimes, your expression of love may seem over the top to them and you might be misunderstood. They might feel like you’re invading into their space or kind of annoying them. It has happened a few times with me. But, I believe that the ones you love will eventually figure out who you truly are and how much you care for them. They will love even your annoying behaviors and await them with eagerness. They will understand you, eventually and love you for your unique ways. Life is too short to hold on to expressing oneself. You never know which day is your last. Be unapologetic in showing your love – it never hurts !
As air, water and food is vital for human survival, so is the feeling of being loved, cared for and appreciated.The biggest gift you can give someone is the gift of your time. Stop by for a few moments and let the ones you know that you love them ❤