As humans, we love to chase. Well, looking closely – it is all about the chase rather than the actual thing. The process or the path over the destination or the end result. The journey over the goal. I still know the numerous plans you made waiting for the summer holidays while grade 6 exams were knocking your door. That was so exciting, wasn’t it ? And those things you always wanted to spoil yourself with. Did the actual accomplishment give as much joy as the anticipation and the excitement during the waiting time ?
I know that now you’ve realized that it was all about the chase which fueled you with the excitement, pumped your nerves with the adrenaline rush & filled your tummy with butterflies. The joy in the actual achievement was merely a fraction of the initial euphoria.
You now fully know – that as humans, we are attracted to what seems hard and distant. The conquest which seems unbelievably in-achievable is what captures our heart and soul and we love the chase, UNTIL one fine day the chase ends.
Living for dreams and goals is what makes life exciting, amazing and worth every bit. The journey and the chase to accomplish them is so much more important than the actual accomplishment itself.
But, I want you to also know that the same does NOT hold true for people. Like a moth drawn towards the flame, we are captivated by people who are an enigma to us. Who seem like a difficult puzzle to decode. Winning whom seems like a big challenge. We are drawn towards the distant, savage and ruthless. The tough nuts to crack. They fuel the adrenaline in our veins as we go chasing them.
It becomes all about the chase as you try to win over those distant people whose even a cent of affection is so hard to get. You have chased people, and you know how it ends. It is the story of the moth and the flame. You end up hurting your own self when you get to realize that the mystery that surrounded them – making them so attractive was plain heartlessness. You give so much of yourself to them and in the end get nothing but a heartache in return. They are mean, distant and cold to you. The ones who hardly value you and all what you do for them. The ones who take you and your love so easily for granted. The ones who you can die for, don’t even bother a bit about you. They lack empathy towards you and take for granted everything you do for them.
In the process you take for granted the ones who truly care about you. You become distant to them and take their love for granted.
Until one summer evening, you are burned by the flame and let all alone to weep over the stings. This is when the people who love you, will come and help you heal. They will whiff gently over your bruises and help your heart to heal with their love.
What I want you to learn is to know the difference between the savage and the compassionate. The heartless and the ones who love you for all of yourself. I want you to stop chasing the distant and the ruthless. They aren’t worth your time, energy, focus or attention. Even if you give them everything within you, they still would never care a bit for you. And no, it’s got nothing to do with you. It is who they are. “Each gives what he has to give.”
Resolve to yourself to never chase love or affection. Promise yourself to not take for granted the ones who love you. Vow to make them feel special who have been there for you when the going got tough.
It is okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. Learn from your failures and make sure that you do not take for granted the ones who truly care about you.