Something that needs to be said


Often in life we fail to appreciate the people who bring sunshine in our lives. Life is too short , they say. I always used to think this as some kind of joke.

Just yesterday my friend informed me that one of my ex colleague suddenly passed away in a car crash while she was on a vacation in America. At first I couldn’t believe this. I was very close to her while I worked in Mumbai. We used to go for evening strolls and discuss so much about life, education, our bosses and departments, families and a lot more. Her daughter was the same age as me and I looked up to her as a motherly figure. She was humble and kind and touched my life in ways I can not describe by words. I still remember her affectionate hugs and the way she’d hold my hand while we’d go for a walk. When I told her about my move from Mumbai and the organisation, she was very happy for me and gave me many good wishes and blessings.

Just last September, I happened to be in Mumbai and had an extra half day to my leisure. I missed the place I worked for 3 years a lot and the people there a lot more. I told my friend who had accompanied me to the Mumbai trip, that I wished to go to RCP and my friend was more than happy to come along.

And guess what – who was the 1st person I called / met ? It was her. I vividly recollect going to her desk and she looked at me with surprise and gave me the warmest hug. We sat and chatted on about life and she was really happy to listen to me and was also telling me all about her work, her daughters and her upcoming USA vacation. Amongst all the people I met that day in my ex office, I think I spent the largest amount of time with her. I told her how she had inspired me to take the big move and how much I miss the evening strolls with her. While we parted ways, she once again gave me a hug and a peck on my cheeks. It was endearing and heartwarming for me.

Just a couple of days back I was thinking of my next trip to Mumbai and she was on the top of my list of people to meet. Little did I know of life’s plan.

Getting the news of her demise was of sudden shock. A sense of grief ran over me. I have a lump in my throat while I type this. This was uncalled for and totally unexpected.

As you know me, I haven’t been a person who’d hold back saying something I mean to say. That has been one of the best and also one of the worst things about me. But today I want to say something that needs to be said.

Following the day I got to know the news, I sent the above message with a personalized message thanking a few special friends who have had a deep impact in my life. I told them how much they mattered to me and why I absolutely adore their presence in my life. Almost all of them responded back to me in their own ways.

While I may not be able to do this for every person in my life, I do feel a sense of gratitude from the bottom of my heart to every person who has molded me into the person I am today.

Thank you to every person who has ever opened up and read my blogs here on Decoding Happyness – you have shared a part of my soul – multiplied my happiness & divided my sadness. Thank you for your kindness and inspiring words when I was blue, for your patience when I was lost and your belief in me when I felt confused.

Brinda Mam, you will be dearly missed

Warm hugs & prayers,

37 thoughts on “Something that needs to be said

          • It is because my words come from spirit and anytime we hear a truth, like those deep heart to heart talks we have with loved ones, we can feel the love within those words, and it brings a peace within. That peace and serenity is built on that love and trust we build and share with others. Sometimes we are ready, sometimes not. And that is simply because it is threatening and we are afraid to open our hearts. You have had a great loss and you can now ‘see’ the many things that you hold onto in this world really don’t matter anymore. It will change you and give you more direction within, that final goal of releasing our fears so that we can be free and reach for that unconditional love that is gently waiting inside our hearts for us all ❀ xx

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  1. So sorry to hear about your friend. I know you said colleague, but someone you share evening walks with and pour your heart out to is a friend, regardless of age. Really glad I found your blog, too, because you have such positive energy. And you’re right, we never know how we touch a person.

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    • Hello HB. Thank you for your kind words. She was much more than a colleague to me. A friend, mentor & inspiration. Her kindness has touched many lives and I am sure she rests in peace.
      Hugs and prayers your way πŸ™‚


  2. As somebody wiser than I once said – You only have today, because tomorrow is not guaranteed. If you want to repair a relationship; say thank you; say I love and miss you… then do it today. You may not have the opportunity tomorrow. A great example below:

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  3. Dear Himali, I am so sorry for your loss. It must have been such a shock to you. It was meant to be that you two met the last time you were in Mumbai. I wish I could embrace you in person right now but sending you the most loving thoughts over.πŸ’–
    It is true what you said about touching other people’s lives even though we might not even notice what (blessing) we leave. That’s why it is so important to always be as true to ourselves as possible and be the best person we can be. We leave footprints at every moment.
    Much love to you, Himali πŸ’–

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  4. You are always so positive Himali. Life is too short and we can never know what can suddenly happen. There were some untimely deaths on my side too and someone close to me, is in a coma. But, we can send a small prayer to our loved ones who watch us from the sky. I am sorry for your loss.

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  5. Hi Gunappa,

    It’s great to hear from you again, but I wish it was under happier circumstances! I’m so sorry to hear about your friend 😦

    You’re such a warm, lovable person, Himali. I know your ex-colleague must’ve cherished the time you were able to spend together πŸ™‚


  6. Hi Himali. I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. You are one of those people who touch others with your kindness and uplifting words. This post resonates with passion and vulnerability and serves as a great reminder to tell people how we feel about them. And we really don’t know the impact of our words and actions. Thank you for touching my life. Hugs and blessings, Brad

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  7. SMiLes.. mY FriEnd For We aRe LooKinG
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    to LiVE
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    Anyway.. Hellooove Himali For iT iS
    True the Best Lessons iN LoSing LoVeD
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    alWays More Than Death is to Love the
    Miracle oF LiFE iN NoW.. Give it and Share it
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      • Helloooove.. Himali.. and thanks for letting me know about your progress on finishing
        your first two papers for your CPA and yes of course i will keep you in my
        prayers with positive wishes and hopes for you to do well on the
        next two more to go for it is true too.. hehe.. one day
        if someone talks me into making large sums
        of money for after all.. hAha.. even in the
        Movie ‘Pee Wee Herman’ ‘they’
        made a movie of his life as
        they did too in the ‘Gold Member’
        movie with ‘The Man of International
        Mystery’ per ‘Austin Powers’ and Beyonce
        Playing the roles.. both in the movie and the
        movie within the movie.. so true.. if that ever happens
        in this case.. i will need to hire a high powered accountant
        like you to distribute the money to worthy causes starting with
        my personal accountant of course as i do not think Katrina will
        care to work that hard as my personal accountant by then.. anyway..
        you are already in my
        Blog Movie and Book
        with other informal
        names for
        that as
        it is
        true for now
        we are all part of that
        online movie/book just working for Love.. NoW hehe..
        but you ‘kNoW’ what ‘they’ say.. one reaps what one sows..:)

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