A few weeks back, I was being incessantly bombarded with curve-balls from my best friend (let’s call my friend ‘Jay’) – whose life motto is to test my patience and wits; to the ends of planet Pluto. And mind you! I get no prior warnings too.
Jay was narrating to me how he helps ‘his-best-friend’ (let’s call my best friend’s best friend as ‘Kay’ – and I have never met Kay in person) in dealing with curve-balls questions by prepping up Kay and he’d narrate to me how they get along like a house on fire. I have first hand witnessed the two chatterboxes talking on the phone for an hour, which would be their bare skimpy minimum.
So there was this one time I was complaining how Kay is Jay’s more-favorite-friend and more because Kay gets fore-warnings from him before the troll attacks begin, whereas I get bombarded like Hiroshima and Nagasaki. To this, I immediately get another impromptu “Please don’t tell me you are J of Kay” (J = jealous). I immediately join the bandwagon saying “Of course, Kay gets fore-warnings – I don’t “. We ended the topic with a lot of laughter.
Somehow, that question/remark/statement Jay made, stuck with me. It made me think, deep. About the kind of person I am, the kind of person I wanted to be when I see myself in the mirror. I never wanted to be someone who resents people. I’ve never wanted to feel envy or jealousy. I began thinking to myself:
How could I be J of Kay without even meeting him or knowing him? Jay and Kay have been best friends long before I even knew Jay – been through thick and thin together. Why should I feel envious or insecure or despise their friendship, when I didn’t even fully know their story?
This is when this line struck a chord with me –
Everyone has their own path in life, their own story. The grass on the other side always appear to be green, and more often than not; it is because we forget to water our own side!
I realized how silly I was to fall into Jay’s trap, ONCE AGAIN!
The next time Jay and I were catching up by the seaside, Kay called and as usual, they were gossiping for about an hour. Jay came apologizing for keeping me waiting while I bid my time listening to the crashing of the waves and watching a movie I had on my phone. I smiled at Jay and said “It’s okay, and you know the other day you had asked me if I was J of Kay? Well, I thought about it and have come to the conclusion that I am not J. In fact, I think – I, Jay and Kay will be a really good team – The Three Musketeers. And who knows, someday soon I, Jay and Kay will be sitting by the beach 🙂 “.
Jay gave me a smile and a look of disbelief (for the I, Jay and Kay will be sitting by the beach – dream I tried to sell) 😛 Now, every time we speak of Kay, I refer to Kay as “Our 3rd Muskeeter” (poor Kay, doesn’t even he’s part of the gang already 😉 )
It is so important in life, to look at people with admiration, rather than envy. It is being focused on the abundance rather than the lack. After all, we attract what and how we feel and focus our energies on.
Envy is not about feelings. Envy is about Geometry. If we are on the opposite sides of the angle, this envy is fueled with malice and unhappiness. But, if we are aligned in the same straight line, it is admiration and inspiration.
Let’s strive to be aligned and hold hands with love rather than sit on the opposite ends of the table and despise one another.
Wouldn’t the world be such a better place to live then?