Appreciate and be Thankful for what you currently have!

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There have been so many times in life when I’ve come across people who hold grudges against me, complaint, nag or make me feel guilty about something I was ‘ought-to-do’ and didn’t do. In those moments, I do feel very guilty and somehow I feel what is up with all this complaining? This is who I am and this is how I am – an IMperfect, flawed and prone-to-mistakes mortal human being with finite time, energy and patience.

When I feel I can’t live up to someone’s expectations about me, it crushes my soul. But then, I get indifferent. It feels like – nothing I do for them will ever make them happy! Why can’t they just understand that I really got busy? Yes, I am guilty of this crime – do you want handcuffs to punish me or are your harsh words enough? This whole complaining business is just so detrimental to the beautiful bond we created, cared for and tendered with love and affection. Like bugs, these complaints start eating away the fruits that were once supposed to be harvested from the trees we jointly planted and watered every day.


Now, let’s take this a step ahead. What happens when we complain about our life to God, when we complain to someone for something they failed to do for us? Wouldn’t they feel similar things for us, about us? Wouldn’t they feel that we are being unappreciative, demanding, a-complaint-box, non-thankful and ungrateful? And slowly, this would not just eat away the garden of our love, but they would become cold and indifferent to what we got to say. They would go like – ‘You know what! Whatever I do, I can never make this person happy. So why even bother trying?’.


Instead of starting this negative cycle what can we do differently? Or how can we break free from this vicious circle of expectations?

The answer is super simple – be thankful for what you currently have! Instead of loading your relationships with the burden of expectations, learn to appreciate and be thankful for all that you have. 

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Just imagine how nice it would feel if someone notices all the little things you do for them. If someone is grateful to you. If they forgive you for the times you slip up, without even making you feel guilty or saying a sorry to them. If you can pick up, from where you left last, without a complaint. Wouldn’t you feel so much more respect and love for such a person? Would you not want to genuinely do things for them, from your heart – just to see them smile?  Would you not like being loved and appreciated for who you are?

Over time, I have come to learn that expectations are natural. But we can’t change or control people. We can only love them and love, is a choice. You can choose to love them for a because or for a despite. The decision is yours to make…

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Just remember, the ones who give, receive back 10x. The ones who forgive, without even letting the person know they had been offended, are always at peace and will also receive forgiveness for their deeds.

And as my friend, Fred says:

“Once you Give
You Receive Back Multiples of 7 More.

Love IS A Light House
iN Those We CaLL Our Home
And That LiGHT House Continues aS ouR Soul
Long after the Candle Has Gone DArk
And the Flicker LiveS on..”

– Fred

We attract what we are thankful for and what we appreciate.

Thank-you,
Himali

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20 thoughts on “Appreciate and be Thankful for what you currently have!

  1. Himali – Your primary goal in life should not be to make other people happy, but to make yourself happy. If you are truly happy, then that will show and impact others.

    Remember that you cannot teach what you have not learned. You cannot teach a foreign language if you do not know that language. You cannot teach nuclear physics if you are not educated in it. By the same rationale, you cannot teach happiness ,or love, unless you have fully experienced it.

    I question your choice of words “This is who I am and this is how I am…..”. While you are technically correct, we should not forget that we are all capable of change, but for change to happen, we must acknowledge not only our imperfections but also a desire to change. Great thought provoking Post. 🙂

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    • Hello Colin & Ray… Thank you for the wonderful food for thought. I was introspecting and got some answers on the points you raised 🙂

      1.) “….primary goal in life should not be to make other people happy, but to make yourself happy ”

      —> Very much agreed, everything in the world begins with self love. Unless our cup is full, we can’t serve others. We can give only what we got 🙂

      2.) “we should not forget that we are all capable of change, but for change to happen, we must acknowledge not only our imperfections but also a desire to change”

      —> I didn’t really write this in the egoistic form. It is just to convey the feeling when people expect or want you to behave as per their wishes. I would gladly change with my heart for someone I care about and NOT BECAUSE I HAVE TO, IT WOULD BE BECAUSE I WANT TO 🙂 People need to develop empathy at times instead of just complaining. I would never want to hurt someone I love and care about consciously. In case I do, I would not just apologize, but also seek for ways to make it right.

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  2. iSMiLes HeLLoVE HiMaLi On This Crisp Cool Day
    And Now Cold Fall Full Moon Night
    iN the United States For A
    Celebration of Thanks
    Giving Day Where
    Going A Much
    Higher Grade
    Than
    Country Now
    to Practice Finding
    Meaning And Purpose
    iN Tiniest to Biggest Pictures
    oF LiFE GiVinG Thanks And Praise
    to All Of LiFENoW BRings iNcreaSingly
    As Holy And Sacred Within MaKinG all
    oF Life Truly Divine in much more than
    Just a Six Letter Word And More Like
    A Six Pointed Star Within.. for me at least
    i’ve come to ‘See’ every minute Move and every
    minute Word a Dance And Song of LiFE That WiLL
    Always Become A More Beautiful Work of Art Where
    Focus Becomes
    Laser
    Where
    Light True
    Within Shines Brighter
    Where Love Lives Alive iNside
    Outside Above So Below And All Around
    As Over Flowing Chalice WHere THere is nothing
    to Lose from A Never Ending Fountain Flow of Forgiveness
    And Even Greater Unconditional Love to Give and Share More
    Fearlessly
    for what
    is filled
    Within
    Stays
    Home
    A Fountain of Love..

    “Once you Give
    You Receive Back
    Multiples of 7 More..
    Love IS A Light House
    iN Those We CaLL Our Home
    And That LiGHT House Continues aS ouR Soul
    Long after the Candle Has Gone DArk And the Flicker LiveS on..”

    Thanks for the Share of What my Fingers Birthed and iN Deed mY SouL
    too For When our Soul Speaks The Reward Is Eternally Now Within to Seek
    And Find more
    of
    Soul
    AS TRuELiGHT
    The Journey Never
    Ends And Life Is Good As LoVE
    When We All Co-Create iN/As LiGHT
    Never
    Ever
    Forgetting
    to Hold Hands With Hugs
    DanCinG And SinGinG ToGeTHeR Free..:)

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  3. I am a great believer in giving to people and we uplift ourselves. Sadly we are surrounded by energy vampires who can never be happy in what we do. The bottom line, people will never be satisfied with what we do and our belief or values should gain the upper hand. Hugs!

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