Indifference is easy, detachment is hard. To be happy with or without – nonetheless – is tricky. It is easy not to expect, but the tough part is to not let the expectations weigh your happyness down. Detachment is like the extra layer of icing on your already pretty and tasty cake – having which, would be delightful; but missing the extra frosting wouldn’t hurt either.
It is a normal human tendency to get attached and have expectations from people, things and events. Life is all about the choices we make in tough times. When crisis strikes, do we continue to choose love over fear and anger? Do we choose to forgive or do we decide to sit back and sulk? Detaching from things and events is much easier as compared to detaching from people.
Detachment is about letting go of the control. Allowing the bird to fly away with its free wings, knowing that the bird may come back to you if it is meant to.
I guess the harder we try to hold on to things and the more we try to exercise control, the more disappointed we feel when things don’t go as per anticipation. Like the sand which slips away much quicker the harder we close our fists, expectations does the same with people around us. One of my best friends would often tell me that life has its own ups and downs – it is upon us how we choose our happyness even when things are not so bright.
Only if we could cut the entangled chords of attachment, would we be able to see the beauty of doing things – without an anticipated outcome in mind.