I’ve often pondered upon the idea of what makes a person do something consistently, effortlessly and with a sense of dedication. What about the boring things we are often guilty of being reckless about? How do you keep yourself motivated to run errands and do the chores? Is it compulsion or discipline or just how some people are wired?
Over the years I’ve got various versions while trying to unravel this mystery. The v1.0 of this theory emphasized on discipline. But… It was highly flawed. You can only force yourself to do limited things. Eventually, your brain will trick you into an escape from what is seen as a forced routine. That’s when a super cool friend of mine said to me that it is about passion, rather than discipline – if you are passionate about something, you will find a way to spend time for it. Now, there were 2 issues with theory v2.0 – 1) Passion fades and grows into something platonic over time 2) How can you ever be passionate about things you hate to do?
That brings us to the v3.0 of Himali’s Theory of Motivation 😀 Above passion, lies fun! 🙂 Anything that we love, that is fun and joy will be effortless. Adding fun to the mundane brings auto consistency. You’d actually find an excuse to do things you find fun and relaxing. For instance, if you hate going to the gym but going outdoors is fun, running outdoors would be the perfect exercise for you.
The final bit – the v4.0 of this theory has been recently developed and perfected. A month ago, while I was on my vacation, I happened to speak with a friend and we got talking about what we had been up to for the weekend. I had my mind boggling when I heard my friend’s activity list for the weekend – it had atleast 15 things in a matter of 40 hours including the phone call with me and then a few more things before it was time to hit the bed. I honestly couldn’t believe if such level of productivity and activity was humanly possible – that too on a weekend! lol
When there is something that intrigues me, I ask without any shame for the What, Why, and How behind it. So, at first, I expressed my awe and then prodded to ask HOW – I mean what was the secret behind having such an active lifestyle. I got a very simple answer which struck a chord – If you have the intent, everything is doable.
That’s it, I found my answer, the missing piece of the puzzle. It is all about our intent.
Our actions are a subset of our intent.
Where there is a will, there is always a way. Even if there isn’t – you will make one, if you really want. Once you set your mind and heart to something, nothing is impossible! I cleared my CPA (USA) exams in a record time of 3 months with an average score of 92% (I lost a bet of getting a MacBook if i scored >= 95 marks in AUD, I passed with a score of 94 in AUD – the subject I found utmost tricky). I would wake up at 2 AM to study before I left for work at 7 AM and somehow I managed to make it through the “no social media, no distractions in life” period. It was all because I REALLY REALLY WANTED TO DO IT. It meant something to me. And that’s why I could do it.
If there is something you want to do, even if you don’t have the means, you WILL FIND A WAY; if not, – excuses. At the end of the day, your intent matters. Efforts will flow proportionately to how strong your intent is. To me, results don’t matter as much as the efforts and ferocity of your desire. I’d end this post with two of my favorite Gujarati quotes:
મન હોય તો માળવે જવાય
“Where there is a will, there is a way….”
નિશાન ચૂક માફ
નહિ માફ નીચું નિશાન
If you miss your target, it is forgivable. It isn’t forgivable to set a lower target.