I’ve been a goal-driven person. Most of my goals have been short term. The next job, the next exam, the next promotion, the next vacation, the next book to read, xx$ in my bank account by dd/mm/yy, pay off my debts by dd/mm/yy… You get it, right! While goals are fantastic to have for a sense of direction – I’ve failed to experience true joy, happiness, and fulfillment when I would achieve them. I placed my happiness on a future pedestal and the actual achievement failed to give me the joy I once anticipated at the start.
Goals that are long term, feel daunting. Since the outcome takes months and sometimes years to achieve and I don’t see tangible results day in and day out, I would often give up or lose sight.
After a lot of reading, I’ve come to the conclusion that having goals is okay to have a sense of direction. HOWEVER, one must not make them the be-all and end-all of life. Adopting systems with lead measures is a better indicator of follow-through and persistence. Creating an identity around the new version we have “decided” to become is important. Living mindfully in the present moment rather than running on the autopilot mode is so important!
You are who you choose to be. Building productive habits are the key and practicing them day in and day out is what makes systems. Having elastic habits, making a pre-written implementation intention of action and coping plans increases your probability of sticking with your intentions. Motivation is fleeting. Actions and decisions are the keys to reinforce the new sense of “you” to your subconscious mind and then program it as your default.
Procrastination and laziness are nothing but an act and a defense mechanism to cope up with underlying fears we hold. Just perfecting the art of showing up and getting started is all we need. Our brain tends to exaggerate things we fear or dislike or worry. Stop giving in to the emotions and ACT on your plans, NOW.
You are capable of achieving greatness, if only you decide and act.