The Cookie Plate

One of my colleagues got us a box of cookies today from his vacation and he placed them all in our office pantry in a plate at lunch time. I tried both – chocolate and chocolate brownie flavor; and they were so delicious ! The mini me insisted me to have a second round since there were many more even after everyone had treated themselves with the sweet treat. That mini me was temptation. And let me tell you, fighting the world is easier than fighting with your own self. 
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So what did I do ? Well, I walked away from the temptation. Even from the 2 cookies I got for myself, I shared them with my coworker and the other cookies I packed up for our house keeping guy.  Oh boy ! The happiness in his eyes was worth every bit of it. He said he’ll share it with his friends and that struck a chord to me. How the little acts of kindness and sharing can brighten up someone’s day. I’m glad I walked away from the temptation and it was empowering.
Temptations come in several forms and fashions. At times they come in such disguise that one can’t recognize them easily.
The very first step is to recognize the temptation and acknowledge to yourself that you are tempted.
Next is what I’d call the “drop the rope”.
Imagine a tug of war fight between you & your temptations where you are basically fighting against yourself & end up being stretched with fruitfulness. So instead of tugging on to the rope harder, why not drop the rope ?
Try finding peace with the victory and the defeat both at the same time. Try a path which brings you fulfillment and joy even in losing against your temptations.
And NO – it’s not a “The Grapes are Sour” consolation you give yourself. Dropping the rope should bring peace and solace and not regret.

The cookie plate is a metaphor to all sorts of temptations life throws at us. And remember, even if no one is watching – God is always watching us. 

Long time, No see !

Being away from blogosphere, feels like being away from my friends and family. In this interim time, I have managed to be in touch with my writing and have many thoughts to be shared on this space.

I still remember my initial days on WordPress – when knowing every new blog & the blogger behind was such a magical experience! I’d be agog to receive a like or a comment on my posts and it would make me elated beyond limits 😀 It made me believe that we are all connected by an invisible bond of friendship and the human touch in all forms of interaction is something that is invincible.

Returning back to writing on my blog, feels like homecoming. As Charles Dickens has very eloquently said :

I relish every bit of this homecoming. To my wonderful blogging family – I have missed you all !

Hugs & Love ❤

An Open Letter To Myself . . .

Dear you,

Sub.: Letting go

I know it’s hard. I know you want to hold the sand in your fist, a bit longer. But the harder you’re trying to hold on it to, the quicker it’s flowing away; isn’t it ? Letting go is hard, to put it as the very least. There’s pain and agony which is directly related to the affection and the connection you share with the person or the thing you are about to let go.

I want to close your eyes and recollect the moment your parents had; when you were 3 and they first had to let you go, apart from them – for 4 hours as you set your feet into the alien world; to attend your playschool. Then, when you bid adieu to them to pursue your dreams when you turned 18. Did they stop you ? What if they did ?

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We are like cocoons, constantly morphing. From a larvae, to a caterpillar to a butterfly. To grow, we constantly need to evolve. And that means, shredding some bits of us at times. The metamorphosis may be painful; but in hindsight when you connect the dots, the transformation makes it all worth it.

Letting go teaches us that everything in life is finite and perishable. So, enjoy when you can, with what you have. It teaches us to be stronger and braver to embrace tomorrow. It teaches us to value the people and things in our lives as often in our sedentary lives, we take a lot for granted. Letting go makes makes us hopeful – someday our paths might cross, isn’t the world such a tiny place ? And, sometimes letting go makes us meet the people who truly are yours. After all, like the Salmon fishes, don’t we yearn go back to our roots ? That’s why they say, if you love someone, let them go. If they are truly yours, they will come back to you; someday. Also, at times, we need to let go of toxins – things like alcohol, toxic relationships, regrets & grudges. Fear not, as Paulo Cohelo has rightly said –

If you are brave enough to say a good bye, very soon life will reward you with a new “Hello” !

So my dear friend, be brave and strong. As you open your heart to the great pains of separation, you also act as a catalyst to a beautiful transformation.

Let it all go, see what stays.

Love,
Himali 

Dear Zindagi : Beloved Life – You are amazing !

I bet, any girl watching the movie Dear Zindagi; would have a crush on Jag – the character portrayed by Bollywood’s undoubted King –  Shahrukh Khan. The way he navigates Kaira to maze out of the complexities of life so effortlessly made me realize that life is simple, we complicate it beyond repair and they complain about life being unfair and harsh. That all problems come with opportunities in disguise and a solution, always ! At times all you need is a catalyst to help you settle the dust and see yourself clearly amidst the turbulent waters.

During the final shots of the movie, Kaira confesses her crush on Jag, to the man himself and it was both adorable and heartwarming. The way Jag appreciates her for expressing her emotions instead of suppressing them, won over my heart.

On my way home from work, I was trying to reflect upon the types of crushes one can have in life. Before I begin penning them down let me share what my definition of a crush is. A crush for me is someone I adore and admire, who inspires me in some ways leaving me attracted to them and wanting to know them or talk to them a little more. My crush would leave a smile on my lips every time I’d think about them.

Below may not be an exhaustive list but let me try to write then down my classification of crushes :

– Romantic crushes
Someone you harbor romantic feelings for

– Professional crushes
That smart, successful colleague you aspire to be like

– Intrinsic crushes
Being attracted to someone because they are kind, humble, caring, et el.

– Extrinsic crush
Looks to die for, dimples to kill for and eyes to live for 🙂

– Unattainable crushes
The ones you only get to meet in your dreams 😀 Dove, where did you fly away ?

– Fictional crushes
Falling for the protagonist of that novel or movie and wishing they were real ! Edward Cullen, are you listening?

– Celebrity crushes
Crushes on celebs in glory of their fandom

– Inspirational crushes
Your role model who gives you several life goals

Something to be noted is that the above, is not a mutually exclusive list ! In fact, it can have several permutations and combinations internally. For example my crush on Shahrukh Khan would be an unattainable, intrinsic celebrity crush.

As air, water and food is vital for human survival, so is the feeling of being loved, cared for and appreciated. A lot of times we fail to convey how much we cherish a person’s lingering fragrance in our lives till they disappear in the hustle and bustle of life.

When being loved is so much important, why do we somehow manage to escape expressing this emotion to our loved ones ? Don’t you think today you should take a break from the monotony and tell someone you crush on ‘Hey, you are amazing !’ ?

The smile which lights up their face will warm your soul this winter.

Special thanks to the first reader of this blog post & the friend who inspired me to complete this write up ! 🙂

A Dedication on Teachers Day

Behind every dream I saw,
There was an unwavering belief..

Behind every wise decisions I took,
There was a learning & a lesson..

Behind every success I cherished,
There was you, my ever inspiring teacher..

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One of my most favourite quotes from the book Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom

Today on this special day, I would like to thank you for believing in me and my dreams, for creating the strong foundations on which I have built my life on, for giving me wings and for pushing me off the cliff when I was afraid to fly; all of it with never ending love and patience. I may not have come to you every time I succeeded, but I knew that you had my back, anytime I’d falter. Thank you for your love, knowledge and inspiration which has made me who I am today !

Let us take time out to say a thank you to every person who has been a teacher to us in this journey of life. Be it our teachers at school, professors at university, our parents – who are the first teachers to us, our friends and family.

You my dear reader, are also a teacher to me. You inspire me to write and writing does to me what the rains does to the dusty glasses. Thank you for reading along and all the inspiration you give me in all forms !

Much love,
Himali Shah ❤

 
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Seeking a Great Perhaps

Last week reading through John Green’s debut novel ‘Looking for Alaska’ left me pondering over a very important thing – “Seeking a Great Perhaps”. Miles, the protagonist of the novel who is obsessed with last words of great men, leaves his home town to study in a boarding school his father had once studied in. When asked by his parents as to why he wanted to leave, holding a biography of Francois Rabelais, he replies : “Francois Rabelais. He was a poet. And his last words were “I go to seek a Great Perhaps.” That’s why I’m going. So I don’t have to wait until I die to start seeking a Great Perhaps.”

Over quite some time, I have been trying to seek my Great Perhaps and that explains my absence from blogosphere for all these months. There has always been a dream I have carried, but somehow; at some point; something pulled me back from chasing that dream of mine.

Dare to chase your dreams

Over these months, I worked hard and risked it all. I put my self beyond my comfort zone and decided to take the leap of faith. And today, I can say that if there is some secret ingredient  which you need to seek your Great Perhaps; it is that leap of faith and facing your fears heads on ! Taking the first step is difficult. Sometimes impossible. I have been caught up in this dilemma for long. But, I have first hand experienced the magic of risking everything for a dream that only you see !

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I can not describe the happiness I feel at the moment, making my debut post for 2016! I have started writing short stories for an e-magazine and I have so many more stories to share here. I’d like to end with a very unique message I recently learnt from a dear friend of mine – “Passion, rather than discipline is the key to success”. I wish you all the very best to embark on your journey for seeking your ‘Great Perhaps’. 

Mirror to my soul . . .

Trust the one who can see the sadness in your smile decoding happyness

All of us wear masks at one point in time or the other. Masks of being happy, being sane and normal, being ‘okay’ when we don’t exactly feel the same way within. There are very few people who can see our real selves just by looking into our eyes or from the sound of our ‘hello’. These are the people we needn’t pretend to. With whom we can shed our inhibitions and laugh till our tummy hurts or weep till the sunlight hurts our eyes. They are the mirror to our souls. They show us the turmoil and chaos within us, when at times we lie to our own selves. They are the people who love us unconditionally and understand us more than we do understand ourself at times. Their mere presence is a soothing ointment to our distressed soul.

If you have even one person, who can see the pain behind your masked smile, your being ‘okay’ or the naughty thoughts behind your crooked smile, you are truly the luckiest person 🙂